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Originally posted by RollCast:
Cor -

perhaps I'm being impudent, but your last few postings read as if your superior reasoning has innoculated you from the simple courtesy of opening a door...

I held the door for several people this evening, as a matter of fact. I don't look like the friendliest person on the planet, so I have never heard anyone say anything in the way of being upset about me doing it.

It's not that I don't like being kind to people. It's just that doors are pretty easy to open and there is no requirement that I be the one to open it.

Opening the door for a lady or letting her in on the elevator first is natural for me. To me, it's gentlemanly and a bit old-fashioned. I always watch other guys at the office and see if they do the same. The older guys tend to do it more. The younger ones haven't learned the fine art of being a gentleman yet.

Most women are generally gracious when you hold the door open. A few are plesantly surprised, sometimes shocked. Some are not used to it, and these are beautiful women mind you. That surprises me.

Unfortunately, there are a few crusty types that are either insulted by the act or feel it's your obligation to open the door. No thank you, no nodding of the head, no appreciation whatsoever. I remember those women and refuse to open the door for them. Although sometimes I do just to piss them off!

Yeah I like to open the door for all people. A big pet peeve of mine is when someone else cuts off the person I am holding the door for and walks in and doesn't even say thank you.

Another pet peeve is when the person is standing right in front of two doors and they actually wait for the person going in the opposite direction to open the door so they can just sneak in. That to me is true sloth. Especially when there are several people behind the sloth trying to get through the door.

Except for those times when you're, like, a quarter mile away from the door and someone who's just a little too polite wants to hold it for you. Then you have to run, top speed, to receive the gesture within a reasonable time frame. Unless you don't mind letting them stand there for two minutes while you leisurely amble to the door and relieve them of their responsibility. I remember one time someone did that -- and I realized midway that I forgot my wallet in the car. I went through the door anyway and thanked them, then hiked back to the parking garage to get my money.

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Originally posted by CigarLife:
It seems that when I open the door for a lady they look so surprised when I do that. I open the door for my wife and close it behind her whenever we get into a car. Has the art and seduction of chivilary died?

Do you hold doors open or anything that would still be considered chivilarous?

...I hold the door open for ANY women I'm in the presence of. If fact, chilvary is one of the reason's my wife married me a year to the day we met! Keep fighting the good fight my friend. As long as women know that there are still gentlemen out there, they'll continue to have reason to smile.~

In the deep south, where I have been born and bred, "chivilary" (for lack of a better term) is innate. It's a ritual your forefathers practiced and it's handed down from birth. It's not that I give much thought to doing it, out of love, respect, kindness, etc., it's just rote. It's like eating with a fork instead of your hands.

Whatever the reason, I think it's a "good thing" as Martha may say.

Tab

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Originally posted by Tabcon:
It's like eating with a fork instead of your hands.
Tab

...I like the analogy!!!

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Originally posted by CigarLife:
It seems that when I open the door for a lady they look so surprised when I do that. I open the door for my wife and close it behind her whenever we get into a car. Has the art and seduction of chivilary died?

Do you hold doors open or anything that would still be considered chivilarous?

No...I don't think the art has died. My husband opens the doors for me and I have come to expect that.

Hmmm.