I've returned to cigar smoking and this forum after too long of a break. I doubt that there are more then a handful of people who remember me, although I do recall that in one thread (about memorable member I believe)someone named me as their "rookie of the year" for the forum, so there may be a couple more members that remember me then I think (hopefully for good things, and not for something like a silly political argument).
To summarize, before joining the forums here I was a casual cigar smoker, smoking on the weekends and holidays, but then when I registered here and started reading reviews and talking about cigars all the time I found myself enjoying cigars on a daily basis. In the beginning, my girlfriend thought that my sudden immersion into the cigar culture was just my latest short-lived interest and that it would pass in a couple of weeks, but when it didn't she grew tired of the smell on my clothes and my body, and most of all the smell a cigar leaves on your breath, which seems to be invulnerable to mouthwash and multiple teeth brushings. Eventually, she stopped putting up with it and I started missing sex a lot, so I had to make a choice. She never asked much of me, and my hobby was taking a toll on my lungs, so I decided to give up my regular cigar smoking. I also had to give up coming here, because the urge to smoke a cigar was just too great when you're reading about them all the time.
However, this September, after nearly two and a half years, she left me. No, she isn't with some other guy right now, she just left me because she was no longer happy with me, and I guess I'm partly to blame. She was the best thing that ever happened to me though, and the only person I ever felt completely comfortable with (I've never even felt completely comfortable with my immediate family or my close friends). I don't even really know or understand what happened; just a month or two before she broke up with me we were talking about how our life was going to be once we were married; I wanted to propose to her this Christmas.
I've been in a really bad place since then, and am now trying to pull myself out of the alcohol and drug abuse that I've fallen into, so the realization that I can now return to my love of cigars provides some small solace in these dark times for me.
Here's where I could use some help from you guys: I recently picked up a couple of my old favorites from the old brick & mortar, and after not smoking cigars for several months, they're just a bit too strong for me right now, so I was hoping that you guys could share a few suggestions for some good cigars that are more on the mild side until my taste-buds become re-accustomed to the cigars I had been enjoying a few months ago. I'd also love to hear about any noteworthy new cigars that may have come out in the past few months.
I think coming back here and getting back into my cigar hobby will really help take my mind off of things. I'm also looking forward to getting to live my life without constant back-pain. I have a surgery scheduled on the 29th of this month with a Spinal Specialist, and once I've recovered I can go back to doing lots of other things that I once loved, like hiking, I'll be able to go back to work full time, and most importantly, I won't be in constant pain. With all of these things to look forward to, my days are seeming a little less dark with each one that passes, and I especially look forward to seeing all the usual faces around here and sharing friendly discussion while relaxing with a drink in one hand, and a cigar in the other.
It feels good to be back here.
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Posts: 419 | Location: Long Island, NY | Registered: January 11, 2009
Don't get too broken up over women i have been married twice. Been involved in serious relationships with dozens of women in between. I have come to one conclusion they are all emotion and not much rational thought. My daddy used to say before he left this shtty world. " Women are like buses don't get too upset if you miss one 10 minutes later another comes along" Good luck with your problems hold your chin up. Everyday is a new beginning.
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Welcome back, D! I remember you. Love lost is a tough deal, bro. Somewhat similar situation here as I joined the forums and got into cigars as my relationship was self-destructing. This place helped a lot. Not to give you any false hope, but sometimes time heals...though, sadly sometimes it doesn't. I'm slowly rekindling a relationship with my former fiancee. You never know. Just don't try to force things if you think there's a chance...it will happen organically if it's meant to be. All we can do is remember the good and move forward using the lessons we've learned. Dwelling on the past can certainly lead to some destructive behavior...believe me. The best thing one can do is take care of yourself first, and it sounds like you're on the right path. Focus on yourself and the things you love...keep busy. You were into art, right? Maybe through creativity you can find some of the solace you're looking for. Take care, bro. This is a good place and you are amongst friends. Best of luck.
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People split up and they usually get through it. The question that you have to ask yourself is why you are so affected by this very common fact of life.
What is hard is parents that have very sick, severely disabled, dying or dead children
Welcome back DCrist, sounds like a tough year. I know 2009 hasn't exactly been roses for a lot of people. Hopefully things work out for you in the lady department, as far as cigars I would try to stick with some Fuentes maybe the Sungrown Chateau Fuentes, or perhaps some 858s or even the Padrons. You can work your way back up to the stronger stuff.
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Posts: 4427 | Location: Ohio | Registered: July 20, 2007
Welcome back, D. Good to hear you'll soon be getting back to work and other things you want to do.
Lots of women out there, remember that. Most people have had love lost(sh*t, I still miss my high school girlfriend, she was really wild lol) but most get through it, don't dwell on it though. I know you might think you wont find someone as good or whatever, but you will, probably many,many times, everybody does.
Anyway, Macanudo makes mild cigars. I know alot of people hate on them, but they're mild and consistent. If that's what you're looking for, go for it.
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Welcome back buddy, good to see you posting again I have been wondering where you had gone. As much as it sucks that your woman left, it is true that there are plenty more and you just may find one better... happend to me in the last year, you will get through. Be strong brother.
Stick to the cigars, anything else is gonna make it even harder for you to get back on track. Keep yourself on the right path and things will fall into place.
God bless,
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Posts: 783 | Location: Philadelphia, PA | Registered: November 09, 2008
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Hey friend, i have not talked to you before but feel our pain. I think we have all gone through some type of loss like yours before whether it was early stages or later. But you did what all of us would do and get sad and mad and depressed about things. You may have even rejected cigars for a while as that was a major factor in your relationship. Your rejection of cigars to make her happy, yet fortunately you did not and are back at it again. I personally think she just said she did not like cigars because you enjoyed them so much, she was jealous and couldn't take it so she left. Dont try to figure things out as sometimes the big guy upstairs has a path he wants you on. So remember the past but don't re-live it and focus on yourself and what you like. Once you have taken care of yourself, then maybe it would be time to take care of someone else again. Of course she will need to understand the love one has for cigars and maybe even enjoy them herself. Good luck to you friend.
Originally posted by hydragoat: People split up and they usually get through it. The question that you have to ask yourself is why you are so affected by this very common fact of life.
What is hard is parents that have very sick, severely disabled, dying or dead children
True Hydra, your not wrong. But all peoples are in all different place of life, yea? One man's struggle is another man's success.
Some have gone through harder things than others, but the one who conquered the hardest thing, first conquered the smaller thing, sometime earlier in life.
To that end....suck it up and move on, there are worse problems in life.
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welcome back...nothing good can come from dwelling on it... move forward and concentrate on bettering yourself. everything will fall back into place and you'll once again find love. This time keep smoking cigars and you can use the excuse that i've been smoking cigars when you met me line...
try the med cigars with alot of flavors like la aroma de cuba especials or aurora 1495 series. if you want really mild.. try the diamond crown and punch grand cru or Cao gold.
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Posts: 914 | Location: Fresh Meadows, New York | Registered: April 17, 2009
Thanks for the support and suggestions everyone. And Jinx, it really means a lot to me that you actually remembered that art was an interest of mine.
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Originally posted by hydragoat: People split up and they usually get through it. The question that you have to ask yourself is why you are so affected by this very common fact of life.
What is hard is parents that have very sick, severely disabled, dying or dead children
I realize that people go through much harder things then losing the person the one they love, but I was very depressed before meeting my ex, and being with her made me feel whole again. I made my whole life about her,and all my other interest fell by the wayside. I know that's not healthy, but that's what happened.
I've been through many break-ups before, as we all have, but this one has hit me so much harder then any of the others. That's partly because I planned on getting married to her and proposing in a couple of months, and partly because she's the only person I've ever met that I was completely comfortable with. I have really bad social anxiety and paranoia, and as I said before, I'm not even that comfortable with my close friends or my own family. I've had panic attacks being surrounded by people I didn't know. I'm just always on edge around other people, even people I've for most of my life. My ex was the first person in my life that I ever felt comfortable and relaxed with, and that was from the very beginning. So statistically, it would seem like I'll have to wait another 25 years before someone like that comes along again, and that person might not even be a woman. I mean, it would be nice to find a good friend that I felt comfortable around, but that still leaves me without a woman to have and to hold.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ "The Forum Hippie" ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Favorite Every-Day Cigar: Arturo Fuente Short Story Favorite NC: Arturo Fuente Between the Lines Favorite CC: Ramones Allones Specially Selected
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